In order to be happy and successful, we all have to be aware of who our real friends and true family members are!

If you don’t know, whoever you hang out with will either lead you to success (positive) or to a lower quality of life (negative).

So, therefore, the person you spend time with the most, you’ll become just like them!

That is because vibes/energy doesn’t lie. I have had several friends and some family members that I thought were appreciating me, but they were the complete opposite.

There is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some people come into your life to test you, some to teach you, some to use you, and some to bring out the very best in you. – John Geiger

In fact, I had a so-called “best friend” in the past and I got to a point where I trusted him so much that he betrayed me and did a very well plan to steal my pickup truck and actually took thousands and thousands of my money from me.

But I only was able to find out later on, which at this time, he left me broke and depressed all over again!

However, I had forgiven him and was willing to only send him the energy of love, forgiveness, and gratitude through my own thoughts/feelings all the time regardless of what he did to me.

And after a while, I ended up forgetting all about him, and then a few years later, he actually found out my new number somehow and ended up paying me back the $200k that he stole from me.


Now, believe it or not, some of my family members have been wearing fake masks toward me as well and were only using me in the past!

So I’m here to show you how to watch out for these types of people in your life and what you should do because trust me, I’ve been there before.

How & Why We Are Who We Have In Our Lives?

In today’s world, there are too many fake people out there!

Not a lot of people want to see us doing good or better than them, and that’s a fact.

People may seem so friendly, faking a smile, and lovable, but in reality and deep down inside of them, they are hating you and have so many negative feelings towards us.


As I’m speaking for me, all of the people that have been around in the past regardless of their intention towards me, I only have been real, honest and always looked forward to helping them out in any way that I could…

But most of them, I’m talking about 95% of them was only using me and taking advantage of me, of my kindness, of my money, and even the things I have like borrowing my stuff.

Yet, at this time, I had no idea what was going on since I had no knowledge about the law of attraction and how our body’s energy works.

Never trust someone who has let you down more than two times. Once was a warning, twice was a lesson, and anything more than that is simply taking advantage. – Unknown

I literally had no idea that these people, friends, and including some family members were draining my energy, and therefore, I seemed to have a hard time trying to be successful.


Now it’s true that friends, family, and people have a great percentage of impact on all of our lives. We are influenced by people’s attitudes.

Fast forward to today’s date and age, all of them that did me wrong or the ones that I have noticed that were only fake towards me, what I did was block them out of my life, blocked their numbers, blocked them on my personal social media accounts, forgave them and forgot all about them.

Believe it or not, these people were the same ones that I did every possible thing to help them out! For some of them, I actually gave out some money to help them in their lives.

And unfortunately, it’s true that the closest people in our lives are sometimes the worst ones…

NEVER BLAME anyone in your life. Good people bring you HAPPINESS, Bad people bring you EXPERIENCE.


People don’t even like themselves. So why would you care if they don’t like you.

However, I’m not talking about dad or mom, but cousins, aunts, uncles, so-called best friends, close friends, colleagues at work, maybe brothers and sisters, and so on…

So my point here is that when these negative people were in my life, there was hardly any success but I truly mean I struggled a lot in life and I was completely unhappy and depressed!

Their negative energy got to me all the time, and the only way to actually get rid of this negativity was by blocking them completely out of my life, and I sure did, where my life seemed to turn around instantly and I noticed more success and positivity all around me.

Your heart generates an electromagnetic filed that reaches several feet outside of your physical body. People can feel you.

In today’s date and age, I only have about 5 true and real people in my life, which of course, my mother is my #1 best person ever who is always there for me, who always believed in me, and always had real love towards me and never did me wrong in any way at all.

The mother of my child was always there for me as well during my hard times back in the day, and even though we are no longer together, I still help her out a lot, and the rest are my close successful friends.


Surround yourself with people that reflect who you want to be and how you want to feel, energies are contagious. – Unknown

How to Notice Who Are the Real People in Our Lives?

Believe it or not, it’s not that hard to notice who the real people are that really look out for us without any bad intention and who highly appreciate us in their lives with a heart full of love, positivity, joy, and gratitude.

But of course, it’s easier to notice them when you’re in harmony with yourself because since our energy is always elevated and when someone is around, you either feel more elevated or drained and that’s how you can easily notice based on my experience.


And again, this could be your partner, close friend, a family member, colleague, or whoever in your life.

So here are some of the signs to look out for based on my own wisdom;

  1. When they are around you in person, do you feel more uplifted or down? You can tell by your own feelings known as intuition. I have a successful millionaire uncle and when I’m around him, I feel more joy, peace, and love. But when I’m around my negative aunts, I feel like my feelings are pulled down like some type of heavy negative magnet drowning me down inside of me.
  2. How are their lives going? Are they always complaining, worrying too much, seeing faults in everything, and being unsuccessful? If they are, then you can rest assured that they are most likely draining your energy as well since they are pessimists. But if they seemed to be on the right path with more positivity, then it should be okay, unless they’re hating on you.
  3. When you mention to them a great idea, a goal, or a dream that you want to achieve, what do you notice? Do they seem happy, excited for you, and let you know that you’re going to really achieve it, or do they seem unhappy, faking a smile, and showing a negative expression? Successful people want you to achieve the same success or even better than them, but low-life people will not want you to achieve any success whatsoever.
  4. Are they judging, gossiping, criticizing, lying, disloyal, disrespecting you, using you, putting you down, saying negative things about you, of others, or even having a hard time maintaining a relationship? If they are, then right away you should know that they are draining your energy as well.
  5. Last, are they dwelling on past experiences, always watching the news and on negative channels, and not looking forward to a better future? Are they depressed, always anxious, or focused on the problems and not the solutions? If they are, then get rid of them.

Remember, their life is not your life, and if their life is low or if they are depressed, the only thing you can do is to send them love, positive feelings, and gratitude thoughts towards them.

Stay away from negative people. They have a problem for every solution. – Albert Einstein


Any friend that turns into an enemy has been hating since day one. – Tupac Shakur

You are not responsible for their lives or their wellbeing, you’re ONLY responsible for your own self.

And the main key here is to be 100% aware of everything, of all, of what’s going on, be aware of how they act around you and be aware of their energies because energy is contagious!

What To Do? – Final Conclusion

If you really want to protect your own energy and in order to be successful in your life, you have to get rid of them at all costs!

It doesn’t matter if it’s a “best friend” from an early age, if it’s your spouse/wife, girlfriend, a family member, or whoever it may be, you must get them out of your life.

Love is not a relationship with someone, love is a way of life with everything.


Now if it’s truly a family member, just get away from them and try your best not to be near them or talk to them frequently, because their energy will get to you!

Trust me, I have had some family members that I love so much but I had to make this choice in order to protect myself, in order to grow in life, and become a successful person.

Protect your spirit from contamination; limit your time with negative people. – Thema Davis

Spouse or girlfriends? Yes, I had a few that I left for the same reason because what is going to happen is that your life will be at the same level or worse than theirs.

If it’s some co-workers, colleagues, or whoever, try to stay away from them at all costs! Don’t be near them, talk to them, or any of that. I would just ignore them!

Just so you know, you can’t grow with negativity around you, it just won’t happen!

Cutting people out of your life doesn’t mean you hate them, it simply means you respect yourself. Not everyone is meant to stay.


When you’re up in life, your friends get to know who you are. When you’re down in life, you get to know who your friends are. – Unknown

And here’s what you should do!

The only thing you must do to help them out is by a self-healing prayer here to send them forgiveness, love, and gratitude.

Other than that, there is not much that you can really do but get away from them to protect yourself. You can’t help them by trying to convince them to change their own self or their lives because it just won’t happen unless they actually choose to and be committed to really changing who they are.

The same thing goes with you, the only way you’ll change is if you really want to and choose to.

Sure, another great way to help someone negative is to show them this page or this #1 alpha male website (AlfaStallion®) that I have created to change beta males into alpha males and that is if they manage to change from negative to positive, then you may be able to keep them around in your life.


BREAKING NEWS: You need to hang out with people that fit your future, not your past.

Just so you know, you should not give them money like I did because that would only make it worse.. Trust me, I gave out a lot of money in the past and all of them only tried to get more and more money from me which they only used me and betrayed me badly.

Sad but true!

So do that ho’oponopono self-healing prayer which is a non-religious prayer but more as a forgiveness healing practice ‘prayer’ that will release any negative energy of them and yours as well.

That’s what I do, and some of the times, this effective self-prayer may allow them to see their true selves, be aware of themselves, and come to a point to actually change who they really are!

Sit with winners. The conversation is different.


Other than that, act like you trust people but ONLY trust yourself and your own vibes/energy.

It’s time to focus on YOU!

It’s your 100% responsibility for your own self, for your own life, your own health, and your own success and you do it by completely changing yourself through new habits and daily routine!

Nobody knew I was getting a new car until I pulled upon them. Nobody knew I got another job until they saw my work badge. Nobody knew I was moving until I got my kets…Moral of the story? MOVE IN SILENCE.

I have created the life I want but it sure wasn’t from sitting around on the couch watching tv and waiting for things to happen, but I changed my whole personality from a beta male to a complete alpha stallion male and one way was through removing negative people out of my life.

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Share with me if you have any negative friends or certain family members in your life that are draining your vibes and you just figured it out? Don’t be afraid to drop me a text below with your comment or ask me anything, I’m here to help you!

(2023) How Friends & Family Influence In Our Life/Success – Here’s What To Do!


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