People in general look for the reasons, conditions, and circumstances to love a person or even themselves.
And the truth is that you can love unconditionally meaning there is only pure love regards of what’s going on or what has happened before.
I actually used to be the type of person that believed I needed a reason to love myself or someone.
But this was back in the day over a decade ago when I was depressed, but since a lot of things changed, I learned to love myself unconditionally.
And that is super important in all areas of our lives since love is everything!
You can’t become a success if you don’t love what you’re doing, nor can you be happy with yourself if you don’t love yourself.
I mean, if you don’t love your own self, don’t expect anyone else to love you.
Love, peace, joy & harmony are the best vitamins in the universe. – Philip Arnold
You have to love who you are, who you’re becoming on a daily basis, then you’ll attract a person with similar vibration frequency who loves themselves as well, and who are willing to love you!
Can you see what I’m saying here?
Now let’s get going and find out what is love, how to love yourself and why you should love you for who you are!
What Is LOVE?
Love basically means a feeling of a strong, intense and deep affection towards either yourself or towards a person, animal, or something.
When you feel love, it is not seen but only felt like an emotional feeling, which is the highest frequency of emotion.
Which when you feel completely love, you’ll seem fulfilled and whole and therefore, you won’t need anything else in your life to feel greater than you’re already feeling…
Spend your time on those that love you unconditionally. Don’t waste it on those that only love you when the conditions are right for them.
Now according to a source out there, there is 4 types of love;
- Eros: sexual love like erotic or even passionate love – Partner Love
- Philia: feeling love for your friends or equals – Friendship Love
- Storge: when you love your parents or your own children – Parent Love
- Agape: a love for your own self, desire or for a spiritual God – Self-Love
Now all these types of love are somewhat healthy but it could sometimes cause you heartbreak and leave you feeling unworthy.
For example; EROS love for a partner is usually the strongest type of love in my opinion since most people are loving their partner, but not themselves.
The problem is everyone is looking for unconditional love, carrying a bag full of conditions. – Simran Chaddha
And that is the risky part because not everyone will stay in our lives forever, and when they’re gone, it causes a deep heart pain and leaves you feeling your worse mood ever!
The second strongest type of love is the STORGE one since it’s a parent/child love. And when they’re gone, that’s a huge heartache and if you do have much love for such a family member, then it could be an even stronger type of love than the EROS above in my opinion.
And of course, the third strongest type of love is the PHILIA one which is friendship love. I’m sure you have had a so-called “best friend” and when you lost them as a friend, you felt abandon based on my experience.
It’s not my job to be likable. It’s my job to be myself. The right people will gravitate.
Now the weakest love is actually self-love or what they call it the AGAPE type of love.
And why is that, you may ask?
Well, there a lot of people out there who do love their partner, love their friends, love their parents, but don’t love themselves or a spiritual source of being like God. They don’t love their desires, their dreams, or none of that…
But I’m not saying that’s the right way because it’s not at all!
You first have to love yourself way more than you love anything else in this world, and then you can love the rest because you’re the one who has to deal with your own self forever!
You have to love yourself because no amount of love from others is sufficient to fill the yearning that your soul requires from you. – Dodinsky
How to Love Yourself?
Based on my own experience, to really love yourself is actually so simple but people make it hard on themselves!
The very first part that you have to do is to accept who you are at all costs!
You also have to accept your past completely and that means, forgive everything and everyone that has gone wrong and let them GO, don’t resist attachment but forget it. I also teach you how to heal yourself here…
THE ROOT OF SUFFERING IS ATTACHMENT. – BUDDHA
Since everything is a choice in our lives, yes you can choose to accept and forgive and that is by making a commitment to have the choice of forgiveness, then you can do it!
Which is a must in order to move forward in life and to love your self!
I mean, every single person’s past is different and if you think your past was difficult, you probably have no idea what the pasts of all successful men were.
Weak people revenge. Strong people forgive. Smart people forget.
My past was very hard, I failed many times, I got robbed for $200k by my so-called “best friend”, a lot of past friends did me wrong, broken heart from past ex-girlfriends as well, and I have a serious depressing past since early age when my mother used to try suicide in front of me and I would scream to not lose my mother at the times.
Yet, after I made a choice that I was going to change and forgive everything and everyone, that is when I started to love myself all over again!
Therefore, accept everything but that doesn’t mean NOT to move on…Of course, moving on in life is accepting that this is NOT what you want.
Now the second part to truly love yourself is to invest in your own self!
That’s right…When you start investing in you and focusing on you and you make yourself your own 1st priority, you’ll feel much worthy and you create unconditional love for your own self, and that’s truly powerful!
Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love. – Lao Tzu
That means you’ll come to a point that you don’t need a reason, condition, people, material, or certain circumstances/events to feel fulfilled and whole love within you.
But when I say invest in yourself, I’m not talking in terms of material stuff…
Not at all and how do you invest in yourself the right way?
- Start reading more on a daily basis
- Get self-educated in all areas of your life
- Join in course, join a sport or class – hobby
- Exercising more and stretch every day
- Meditate every day and more often to be calm
- Look forward to being alone for a couple of hours
- Look forward to eating only healthy meals
- Have sex more often to feel more pleasure
- Follow your intuition & open third-eye – higher-self
- Be in the present moment all the time
- Hang out with friends and family more often
- Take more vacations – at least twice a year
- Give back to the world & practice gratitude
- Become a leader in your life & do what you enjoy
- Change your daily habits/routine to healthy ones
- Take action to achieve your goals, dreams & desires
- Look into ways to make more money for financial freedom
So that’s how you invest in yourself! Sure, if you’re driving an old car that’s falling apart and makes you feel negative emotions, then look forward to getting something better, but know your limit.
The same thing goes with your daily clothes! Look forward to wearing your all-time best clothes to feel your best! Dress to kill…
I am not what you think I am. You are what you think I am.
Change your mindset, change your job for something better and that is when you’re going to start to truly love who you are!
But when you don’t invest in yourself, you may be looking outwards to feel love and that is no good because you’re basically giving your power to whatever it is, and when it’s gone, you’re left out with a broken heart that could a lot of time to recovery!
So what I’m trying to say here is that you first need to love yourself by accepting you and investing in you, then you can love the people and all things in your life.
Why You Should Love Yourself First at All Costs?
It is super important that you love yourself regards if anyone else does!
Sure, it does feel amazing to know that someone loves us, and it feels great to love someone else back as well…
But as I mentioned before, to ONLY love someone and not yourself first, you’re basically giving your whole power to them!
Demostrate love by giving it, unconditionally, to yourself. And as you do, you will attract others into your life who will love you without conditions.
And when they have all this power in their hands, you’re in their control and they can leave you feeling good or bad, which will depend on their actions.
That means, the moment they don’t want to be around you anymore, you’re lost and left out with such negative emotions like depression, broken heart, and so on.
But when you LOVE yourself first and most of your unconditional love is towards your own self, no one has the power but yourself.
WHEN you don’t love yourself you will accept love from anyone that will provide it… EVEN if that person is bad for you.
You won’t care if they love you or not, you won’t care if they leave or not, you won’t care about other’s opinions/judgments or none of that!
And that’s what I do in today’s date and age!
I don’t want to sound “selfish’ but yes, I love myself unconditionally like I’m obsessed with who I am, and yes, I love my parents, my family, my friends, the girls I hang out and I love everything!
I care for all, including you here and that’s why I’m writing all the knowledge to help you… Therefore, I love you as well since everything is energy!
But again, the love for our own self is the most important and I have a lot of self-love which is also known as self-respect!
And when I say self-respect, that means you don’t accept or tolerate someone treating you bad, breaking your heart and leaving you with bad emotions, no not at all.
Be careful of what you tolerate. You are teaching people how to treat you.
If you have self-love and self-respect, you’ll see that the person is causing you harm, and therefore, you’ll leave them alone, forgive them and get away from them, and this could be your spouse, a family member, a so-called friend, or whoever.
Not a lot of people have this type of courage and that is because they don’t LOVE themselves enough to see their worth!
Rule: Never get so attached that you accept being disrespected, used, lied to, or cheated on.
The Outcome of Unconditionally SELF-LOVE
There you go!
Make sure not to have limitations to how much you can love yourself because the more love you have within you towards your whole being, it is ONLY you that will have your full 100% power.
That means, don’t do the opposite like the rest of the population, but love yourself first and then you can love someone, something or whatever it is!
Forgive everyone and everything, but have gratitude for all and love all as well!
When you show gratitude, you’ll feel much more love because gratitude is the parent of all elevated emotions.
In fact, I personally think that we can’t feel love without having some sort of gratitude.
And it’s true!
Do good, speak good, think good. Realize that every being we encounter is an enlightened being, disguised, to show us the way. Some show us how we should not be. Others as we should be. – Monja Coen
Now you can see here a whole post on how to be a well-being person, which I’ll show a lot of things that you should do in order to be really well and live a healthy lifestyle!
Just so you know, just because you’re disease-free, doesn’t mean you’re a well-being person!
Being healthy is one thing but wellness is way above than just health alone!
But if you want something more intense like how to be a successful person which I have included the love/gratitude part in there as well, check this one out!
Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world. – Lucille Ball