People confuse with being alone and being lonely. It’s two different scenarios, and you should know how much it’s important to be alone.
Sure, you can be alone and lonely at the same time, but they are not equal.
Being alone is one thing but feeling alone is a whole different story.
I personally love being alone, enjoying my own company and solitude, but that doesn’t mean I’m lonely.
There was a time when I had my back-then girlfriend around me 24/7 and this went on for many months where I seemed to get really irritated and bothered.
Then as soon as we broke up, she left my house and I got back to feeling well all over again!
Now that does not mean I didn’t like her, but it means that I needed my own space, privacy and freedom.
That is probably the reason why I’m not looking forward to getting married anytime soon. Maybe when I’m old in the future, who knows!?
In today’s date and age, I have been living alone for many years and I would never change that. Being alone is very addictive.
Yes, I do like to be around people but not all day. It is super important to be alone a couple of hours in our day. I believe when we are alone, we become very creative and think of great ideas.
You call it being alone. I call it enjoying my own company.
So follow down and I’m going to share with you how much it’s so important to be alone, but not lonely!
Why Being Alone is a Must?
If you were to notice, most of the past spiritual masters such as Buddha, Jesus, etc, all of them used to be alone a lot in order to recharge their spirituality!
And after I started living alone several years ago, I started to notice why these spiritual masters always had their alone time for a few hours on their daily basis.
Sometimes, you need to be alone. Not to be lonely, but to enjoy your free time being yourself.
Being alone feels good, which means not having people around you or talking to anyone for a couple of hours.
However, not a lot of people understand that and some can’t even handle it! Most people prefer to be around other people, are you one of them?
Sure, there will always be its pros and cons of either sides!
A lot of people think that when they are alone, it’s the feelings of no-one caring about them in which then, that would be the definition of loneliness.
To me, it’s actually the opposite based on my experiences.
If you want to be happy, learn to be alone without being lonely. Learn that being alone does not mean being unhappy. The world is full of plenty of interesting and enjoyable things to do and people who can enrich your life. – Michael Josephson
When I’m alone, that means I do have other people caring about me but I refuse to be near anyone or talk to anyone for a couple of hours.
Now it’s a fact that sometimes when we are around certain people, they seem to make us feel alone and lonely.
Don’t get me wrong, I have been depressed in the past decade ago, where I used to truly feel “lonely” and for that reason, I learned that being alone was actually good for me.
Learn to be alone and to like it. There is nothing more freeing & empowering than learning to like your own company.
I was forced to learn to be comfortable with myself being alone, with no one near me and that is what caused me to grow in life and be so successful since it does increase productivity in ourselves!
Therefore, I’m not into big cities, crowded full of population and pollution, traffic jams, none of that, but in peace, harmony with nature, feeling joy and grateful with much less noise and all of that.
I highly appreciate silence and enjoy being all alone!
What Are the Benefits of Being Alone?
Being alone could get you addictive as well!
You can turn out to be your own best friend, trust only yourself, and a lot of advantages…
And when being around people and depending on their own vibrational frequency, they will either drain our own energy and elevate it.
When you learn to love your own company, you become far more careful about who you spend your time with. – Katrina Mayer
I would rather have 4 quarters (real people) than 100 pennies (fake people).
That is why is it also super important to only hang out with successful folks which include certain family members as well.
Before I used to be afraid of being alone. Now I’m afraid of having the wrong people as a company.
So what are the benefits of being alone? They are such as;
- Causes us to feel more peaceful
- Allows us to Grow/Create/Develop
- Become more productive than ever
- Helps be more organized in life
- Allows brain to recharge itself
- Cleans our mind – Mindfulness
- Learn to trust ourselves more
- Builds mental strength – Mind
- More freedom with ourselves
- Complete privacy, of course
- Helps value self opinions/ideas
- Allows you to be responsible
- Gives time to think deeply
- Become more independence
- Helps volunteer more of our time
- No distraction, Less Noise – Focus
- Helps boost creativity/knowledge
- Becomes an observer/self-awareness
- Learns to value ourselves much more
- Helps ignore criticizes/gossips/opinions
- Makes you stop looking for validation
- Allows you to gain more self-confidence
- Helps reconnect with yourself – Relaxation
- Improves the quality of all relationships
- Allows exploration & see life possibilities
When you enjoy being alone and feel grateful for the things you have, then you’re going to become a happy person.
Love yourself first, because that’s who you’ll be spending the rest of your life with. – Unknown
And therefore, when you’re happy with yourself first, you then can be happy with someone else and have a healthy relationship with others.
Other than that, if you rely on someone else for your own happiness, then you’ll never be happy because when that person is not around anymore, you lose your complete happiness.
If you do that, you basically give all your power to that person regardless of who it is, and I’m sure you shouldn’t want that since they’ll have the power to hurt you badly…
Until you get comfortable with being alone, you’ll never know if you’re choosing someone out of love or loneliness. – Mandy Hale
So learn to enjoy being all alone to be a stronger person and have a blissful life because our hearts are intended and meant to love ourselves first, then to love others!
Bottom Line Analyse
Now that I love myself to the max, enjoy being alone all the time, and love my own company, I don’t need anyone else to love me.
And that’s where the true power is. It kind of seems like it’s selfish but it’s not…It is self-care, and self-respect in my point of view.
Love yourself and enjoy your own company.. You gonna expect less from others and you would be the most positive person you have ever met. – Priyanka
When people have power over us, they can damage our hearts very badly, and trust me, I’ve been there before!
No-one can hurt me anymore, nobody can define who I am, I’m the only person who knows who I am!
Standing alone doesn’t mean I am alone. It mean’s I’m strong enough to handle things all by myself.
I’m in peace with myself, the power is all mines, and I’m very comfortable with myself. As I’m getting older, the more comfortable I become with my true self.
Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t like to be alone for a long time. Of course, we all need engagement with others, such as our friends and family.
However, we have to watch who the real people in our lives are!
Yes, I’m usually alone most of the time, but I do make time for family and friends on a daily basis, usually at night time.
I hang out with multi-millionaire friends, we talk about ideas and business purposes.
Enjoy your own company instead of expecting someone else to make you happy… – Jenish Prajapati
Love yourself & learn to enjoy your own company because if you don’t love your company, nobody else will. – Muniba Mazari
A beta male is totally the opposite who doesn’t enjoy his own company, he is weak, most likely unhealthy, and anyone can take away his own peace.
Now if you want to check out how friends and family influence a lot in our lives, check this post out here.
I talk about how if they are bad influencers, you should stay away since all they are doing is draining your own energy/vibes and you become just like them.
A wise man can always be found alone. A weak man can always be found in crowd. – Bruce Lee
And if you want to see how you should meditate to feel better when you’re alone, I talk all about it here and also teach you the exact thing that you should do.
It is super important to meditate first thing in the morning so you can have complete full control of your thoughts and feelings.
Finding comfort in your own company is a building block to a happy life.